How to Teach Kids Optimism
Positive Attitude and Optimism
Parents often ask us how they can foster positive attitudes in their children. They understand that attitude is often the difference between surviving and thriving in any situation.
I agree.
Before I make any suggestions that might help cultivate a positive attitude, allow me to suggest that we use a different term: optimism (as defined by psychologists). To a psychologist, optimism is not “always seeing the positive”. Instead, an optimist holds two important beliefs:
- Problems are temporary and
- My actions can mitigate my problems.
By contrast, a pessimist sees problems as systemic and does not believe that her actions can affect her situation. Clearly, these are not equally useful ways to view the world. Optimists see opportunities, pessimists see problems. Optimists have a strong basis for contentment and happiness while pessimists are prone to depression.
I am framing “positive attitude” as optimism for two reasons. First, it provides a clear definition so that we all know what our goal is. Often we have goals that are hard to define, like success. Different people can have very different concept of success. Is success about impact or income? It is helpful to have a clear idea of a goal before going after it.